Another missed birthday
Jane would be 62 today. She would have awakened to a birthday card, presents and breakfast in bed. That breakfast would have included tea and chocolate croissants. Later, flowers would have arrived and we would go to lunch at a favorite restaurant.
Happy Birthday, darling.
Instead, I’ll visit her grave. I will leave flowers, a card, and three small stones–one for her, one for me, and one for us. My life has a gaping hole in it I think sometimes no one sees but me. I work on NET cancer, I comfort the afflicted and afflict the powerful. I live the best life I can. But there is too little joy in it.
The birthday present I wish I had for her
What I really want to give Jane for her birthday next year is a cure for NET cancer. I want us both to smile at that reality. It hasn’t happened this year–but we’ve made some progress that gives me some small hope. Our understanding of the disease gets better every year, though it seems we will need to find some new approaches if what we are seeing be true.
Instead, I’ll visit her grave.
The money we have for research continues to grow with each passing year. The year Jane died, we spent less than $2 million on the basic research that creates cures. This year we have $15 million to spend in the US. A year ago, we were preparing the launch of 3-in-3: The Campaign to Cure NET Cancer at the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute. Between now and early December, we should reach our first $1 million in our effort to boost funding for the Program in Neuroendocrine and Carcinoid Tumors at that institution.
Birthday presents in my heart
On November 1, thanks to that effort, Dana-Farber created a new lab for gastrointestinal cancer that will have NET cancer as its primary focus. Our Boston Marathon Jimmy Fund Walk teams raised over $156,000 as part of that campaign. Riders in the PMC Challenge raised nearly another $50,000. And next year, we will do better.
This year we have $15 million to spend in the US.
Private donors outside those two groups will have contributed another $800,000 when all is said and done. Some of those donations are big; some are small. Every one of them counts because every dollar brings us closer to the understandings we must have. Patients deserve to live full and normal lives without NET cancer hanging over their heads.
The next birthday
At Dana-Farber, we need to build on that success. By Jane’s next birthday, I hope we’re talking about a $1.5 million addition–or more–to what we raised in this first year. I’d be thrilled if the three-year goal were reached in two. But it won’t happen without help from lots of other people who are not yet involved.
…a new lab for gastrointestinal cancer…
And we need to replicate the success of 3-in-3 at other NET cancer centers, both in the US and abroad. We need to turn that $15 million we raised for NET cancer research nationally this year to $30 million next year. To do that, we need every support group and small foundation to do whatever it can. For some of us, that will be as simple as writing a check. Support your local cancer center’s program or larger umbrella groups like the Carcinoid Cancer Foundation or NET Research Foundation.
Creating the NET future
For others, it may be organizing a NET cancer Walk or piggybacking onto a larger and more publicized event with a team or group of teams that earmarks their money to NET cancer research. Still others may run craft fairs or dinners or other events aimed at raising money for NET cancer and raising awareness about the disease in their community. And still others may find other ways, like selling candy bars or going door-to-door to share their story with their neighbors.
…we need to build on that success.
We need both patients and caregivers to understand the importance of taking part in trials–not only for their health, but for the health of others. Jane said, “I want to beat this–I want to be the first person to beat this. But if I can’t, I want doctors and researchers to learn everything they can from me about this disease and how it works.” There are times I wish she had let herself go earlier. But I know what we learned because she kept fighting was worth the extra pain she went through to get it. She was–and is–my hero because of that.
In our hands and in our hearts
What we do and how much money we raise as individuals matters less than doing all we can to take control of our own disease. After five years of working in this vineyard, I know how much–and how little–we can expect from the federal government and the major cancer charities. We have to realize that we are MS, we are ALS, we are Cystic Fibrosis–and take our future in our own hands whenever–and wherever–we can.
She was–and is–my hero…
The future of NET cancer research, the future of NET cancer treatment, the future of a NET cancer cure rests in our hands. If we don’t lobby for increased government spending, no one else will. If we don’t do the spade work to raise private money for research, no one else will. If we don’t volunteer for trials, no one else will. We are all walking with Jane–and none of us walk alone.
Happy Birthday, darling.
