A word about this post
One of the things I said I would do last winter when I was writing about goals and planning was I would share the letters I write for fundraising with the NET cancer community in the hope those letters would help other groups besides Walking with Jane raise money to help their regional NET cancer programs.
What follows is my summer fundraising letter. By modifying one paragraph and the link in the last paragraph, you can use it with your NET cancer fundraising efforts. You have my permission to do so, as long as you use it for that purpose. I have avoided using headers and the like to make the job of using it as easy as possible.
The Letter
Dear friend,
Jane’s death haunts me. I still wake up in the middle of the night, reaching for her and finding nothing there but a pillow. I still hear the words her doctor said the day she was diagnosed. I still hear the hospitalist telling me there was nothing more to be done.
I still remember telling her we were letting her die because there was nothing left to try
Ten thousand people were diagnosed with NET cancer in the US the year my wife was diagnosed with that incurable and nasty form of the disease. Last year, 15,000 people got the same diagnosis.
We don’t know why the numbers have shot up so dramatically in the last five years. Part of it may be more doctors are aware of the disease than was the case then. Part of it may be the new methods we have to detect it. Or maybe something else is going on. We just don’t know.
And while we have new treatments coming online to ease the symptoms of this rare form of cancer, we are not significantly closer to a cure than we were five years ago. Every new thing we learn about it seems to further complicate the situation. I increasingly appreciate the adage among NET cancer doctors: “When you’ve seen one case of carcinoid/NETs you’ve seen one case.” Too often, what we learn from one patient does not translate well to another.
But neither I nor the doctors and researchers are giving up. There are too many patients—120,000 of them—who desperately need a cure. They want to see their children grow up, see them graduate from high school, go to college, get married and present them with grandchildren. They want to grow old with their spouses and celebrate all those anniversaries Jane and I didn’t get.
So, once again this year, I will take on the 26.2 miles of the BAA Boston Marathon course on September 27 as part of the Jimmy Fund Walk. As always, every penny I raise will go to carcinoid/NETs research at the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute.
I’m not a scientist. I’m not a doctor. I’m not a researcher. I’m a man who lost his wife—a man who doesn’t want others to go through what my wife went through—the insomnia, the flushing, the constant, endless diarrhea that is the lot of too many NET cancer patients. And I don’t want anyone to go through what I went through then—or what I go through now.
We need your help. Please give what you can. Help us kill NET cancer before it kills someone you love.
Sincerely,
Harry Proudfoot
Chairman, Walking with Jane
p.s. Even if you can’t give, please share this with people you know.
