Faces of NET cancer

I follow about a dozen online NET cancer support groups. I check in with each of them for at least a few minutes every day. The stories I read in them, and the questions people ask, tear at my soul. Sometimes, they take me back to Jane’s experiences. Sometimes they open new possibilities of hope. Sometimes they tell me that someone I have come to know through their posts will no longer be posting because their battle has ended the same way Jane’s did.

…I’m not asking you for money.

I don’t comment very often. On medical issues, the doctors know much better than I do what a set of symptoms means. I try to be supportive when someone goes in for surgery or some other procedure–knowing how much those few words of support are to someone with NETs. I share these posts on those sites when what I’ve written seems appropriate.

The need to listen

Mostly, though, I listen. Walking with Jane‘s goal has always been to help patients–and the only way to do that is to listen to people talk until you understand what it is they need. Some of the most important pieces I’ve written in the last year emerged from patient concerns I first learned about by listening to what people in the groups were worried about.

…the questions people ask tear at my soul.

But there are some underlying themes in those posts that never really get addressed. They are the elephants in the living room of NET cancer that sometimes we desperately need to talk about–but are terrified to raise outside the edges of a conversation. In theater, we talk about the subtext of a script because people in real life never talk about the real issues they confront–and neither do actors on a stage.

The elephants in the room

The two biggest elephants in the room are interconnected. The first of these is we have no cure for advanced NET cancer–and very few NET cancers are discovered before they have become advanced. The treatments we have can slow tumor growth down for a time for some patients, can alleviate the symptoms for some patients. For a lucky few, those treatments can even shrink the tumors they have for a while.

…people in real life never talk about the real issues they confront…

And we have new drugs and procedures in the pipeline that may help more patients survive with a better quality of life for a longer period of time. But we don’t have a cure. We have ideas that may eventually turn into cures, but those ideas are only now getting into trials and are likely years from being proven and adopted or disproven and shelved.

Some things, you never forget

But the lack of a cure leads directly to the second elephant in the room: People die from NET cancer every day. I have seen what that death looks like. It is something I can never forget.

…we have no cure…

And it is something we each need to work to change every day–no matter how difficult that work may seem.

Walking the talk

For the last four years, I’ve walked the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute’s Boston Marathon Jimmy Fund Walk to raise money for NET cancer research. I’ve been joined by former students and by friends and families of those who have lost loved ones to NET cancer. Over the four years the groups I’ve walked with have raised over $130,000 to help fund research we hope will lead to a cure.

It is something I can never forget.

But last year was special. In April, I got a note from a young woman with advanced NET cancer. She wanted to walk with our team. She didn’t walk the entire 26.2 miles–she wasn’t sure she could. But she took on the 13.1 mile course. And she raised $7000 doing it.

Being brave because we need to be brave

By Walk Day, we had three more patients determined to walk at least part of the distance. One felt even the three-mile course would be a stretch for her–so she recruited three friends, in case she needed them, and pushed her wheel chair from the Jimmy Fund building to Copley Square. And I know of two other patients who made the journey over part of the course for the same purpose.

But last year was special.

The thing that strikes me about NET cancer patients is their bravery in the face of long–seemingly impossible–odds. They need to be brave because they know what will happen if nothing changes. Their caregivers need to be brave for the same reason.

The unkindness of strangers

For 40 years both the federal government and the cancer establishment largely ignored NET cancer because they did not see their support of it as cost-effective. That meant NET cancer patients became orphans totally at the mercy of the kindness of strangers–and there were very few kind strangers. The result of that less-than-benign neglect was likely hundreds of thousands of deaths.

They need to be brave…

And even since the “rediscovery” of NET cancer by those with resources seven years ago, the amount of funding NET cancer researchers have found still does not amount to table scraps left behind by the family dog. Last year, the total spent on NET cancer research in the US from all sources was no more than $10 million at best–and realistically likely less than $8 million.

We need everyone–starting with you

I know what NET cancer looks like. I know how crippling the diarrhea, the flushing, the panic attacks–all of it, is. But we need every patient’s help if we are going to change the landscape of NET cancer. I know the commitment of time and energy being a lay caregiver for a NET cancer patient takes. I’ve lived it. But we need the help of very caregiver if we are going to save the people we love from this vile disease.

…table scraps left behind by the family dog…

On September 20, I will take on the Boston Marathon course from Hopkinton to Boston–26.2 miles. Between now and then, I’ll write letters and do every fundraiser I can manage. I’ll talk to women’s clubs and business groups and high school assemblies.

Come walk with us

But I’m not asking you for money. I’m asking you for something more. I’m asking you to come walk with us, either on the Jimmy Fund Walk if you are here in New England, or on some other fundraising walk for your regional NET cancer program if you are not. Every NET cancer research program is dying for your help and support.

…change the landscape of NET cancer.

To quote another of my heroes, George Washington Carver: “Put down your buckets where you are.” If we are going to change the future, we all have to do more than we think we can to make it happen.